The Wild Grace of an Unapologetic Life

(A Life Legacy Reflection — all identifying details have been gently changed to protect privacy.)

There are some lives that defy neat descriptions — lives that are untamed, electric, and a little bit messy in the most beautiful way.Lives that refuse to be softened for comfort or sanded down for respectability.

This reflection is about a woman like that.A woman who lived barefoot, laughed loudly, and felt everything deeply.She loved with her whole heart — fiercely, protectively, and without conditions.She swore when she needed to, cried when she had to, and laughed like she meant it.

She wasn’t a saint. She never tried to be.But she was real — gloriously, unapologetically real — and that was her superpower.

A heart with an open door

Her home was a revolving door of life — kids, neighbours, friends, stray animals, the odd traveller who somehow never left.There was always a spare seat at her table, always too much food, and always someone turning up unannounced, because they knew they’d be welcome.

She had an incredible ability to love people exactly as they were.She didn’t need you to have it all together — she just needed you to be honest.And if you weren’t, she’d probably tell you to pull your head in, make you a cup of tea, and love you anyway.

She had no time for pretense, and no patience for cruelty.But if you were kind, or hurting, or a little bit lost, she’d take you in without question.

"She didn’t talk about compassion — she lived it."

Grit and grace

Her story wasn’t without struggle.Life tested her — early, and often.She carried more than her fair share of hurt, and some of it stayed with her.But she never let it harden her.

When life knocked her down, she stood up again — bruised, bold, and somehow still smiling.She’d curse, pour herself a drink, and mutter something about “getting on with it.”

She found strength in the small things: a sunrise, a good song, a friend’s laugh.And she believed — perhaps more than anything — that everyone deserves a second chance.

Maybe that’s because she needed a few herself.

Modern Perth Farewells with Grit and GraceAcross Perth, more families are choosing celebration-of-life ceremonies that reflect individuality — just like hers. No scripts, no formality, just truth, music, and laughter beneath the trees.

Love that broke the rules

Her love wasn’t tidy or conventional. It was layered, imperfect, and fiercely loyal.She loved like she lived — with her whole heart and absolutely no filter.

The people who knew her best understood that love from her didn’t always look soft — sometimes it came as a joke, a push, a truth you didn’t want to hear.But it was love all the same — steadfast, constant, and bigger than her pride.

Her life was proof that love isn’t defined by neatness or ceremony.It’s defined by showing up. Again and again.

The woman who made chaos feel like home

She was the kind of person you could laugh with until your stomach hurt.She could find humour in anything — even in the hard bits, maybe especially then.She had that rare gift of making grief and joy share the same space.

Her celebrations were legendary — wild, music-filled, full of colour and chaos.And her farewell was no different.

We gathered under an open sky, surrounded by flowers and faces that carried both tears and smiles.There was laughter where others might have whispered, and stories that would’ve made her proud.

Because that’s how she wanted it: real, warm, unapologetic.A farewell that felt like her.

Strength that stayed even in the end

When illness arrived, she met it the way she met everything — with fierce humour and blunt honesty.She joked with nurses, teased her family, and refused to let anyone tiptoe around her.

Even when her body grew tired, her spirit didn’t.She was still the one comforting others, still cracking jokes, still making sure everyone else was coping.

Her instructions for her farewell were simple:“No doom and gloom. Tell the funny stories. Wear what you like. Make it feel alive.”

And it did.

What she leaves behind

Her legacy isn’t found in possessions or titles.It lives in the people she loved — the family who carry her grit, the friends who still hear her voice in their heads when they need a push, the animals she saved, the gardens she tended, the laughter she started that still echoes.

It lives in every person who learned from her that being imperfect doesn’t make you unworthy — it makes you real.

She taught us that love doesn’t have to be tidy, and grief doesn’t have to be quiet.That you can be strong without being polished, kind without being meek, and broken without being defeated.

The lesson she left us

If her life could be distilled into one truth, it would be this: Be exactly who you are, even if it’s too much for some.

Live fully. Love fiercely.Speak honestly.Laugh loudly.Forgive quickly.And never let shame or fear keep you small.

Because in the end...

"The measure of a life isn’t

how perfectly it was lived — it’s how deeply it was felt."

And hers was felt by everyone who had the privilege of knowing her.

FAQ

What is a celebration of life?

A celebration of life is a modern alternative to a traditional funeral, focused on joy, storytelling, and shared memories.

Can celebrations of life be held in Perth?

Absolutely. Perth offers beautiful outdoor and indoor venues for families wanting a more personal, story-based farewell.

Do I need a celebrant for a celebration of life?

A celebrant can guide and personalise the ceremony, ensuring it truly reflects your person’s story and spirit.

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— Carina Quinn | The Wordsmith CelebrantCreating modern, heartfelt celebrations of life across Perth.